How to Stop Using God and Start Partnering With Him (The Invitation That Changes Everything)

Let me ask you something uncomfortable.

Have you been using God?

I know that sounds harsh. But stay with me.

You said yes to salvation. You love Jesus. You call yourself a believer. But if someone recorded every conversation you’ve had with God over the past year — how many of them were you asking for something?

• Help me with this job.
• Fix my finances.
• Send me a partner.
• Keep me safe.
• Bless this business.
• Can you, will you, please…

Now ask yourself: How many conversations were about what HE wants from you?

If you’re like most believers, the ratio is way off. You’ve been treating your relationship with God like a VIP access pass — unlimited access to His blessings, His protection, His favor — without realizing He’s been waiting for something more.

He’s been waiting for partnership.

Why Most People Never Move Beyond Salvation

You Said Yes to Salvation, But No to the Invitation

Here’s what happens for most of us:

We confess Jesus as Lord. We believe. We’re “saved.” Check the box. We’re good.

But then life stays… the same. Same struggles. Same stress. Same lack of peace.

Why?

Because we stopped at salvation. We never said yes to the invitation.

The invitation sounds like this: Will you let Me do life WITH you? Every single day. From the moment you wake up, get dressed, go to work, handle your problems, make your decisions — will you invite Me into ALL of it?

Most of us never say yes to that part.

We say yes to forgiveness. Yes to heaven. Yes to blessings when we need them.

But we don’t say yes to partnership.

You Think the Relationship Is One-Sided (And You’re Right)

Think about your closest friendships for a second.

Imagine you have a friend who only calls when they need something — money, advice, a favor — and never once asks how you’re doing or what you need.

How would that feel?

That’s exactly what most of us do with God.

• Lord, can you…
• Lord, will you…
• Lord, I need…

And God, being who He is — patient, kind, loving — keeps showing up. Keeps answering. Keeps blessing you.

But imagine if you could shift from using Him to partnering with Him.

What if instead of always asking “What can You do for me?” you started asking “What do You need from me?”

The Real Reason Your Life Hasn’t Changed

You’ve been saved for years, but your life looks the same.

Same patterns. Same struggles. Same lack of breakthrough.

Here’s why: You never invited God INTO your life. You just invited Him to fix things AROUND your life.

There’s a massive difference between:

• Asking God to bless your mess
• Inviting God to help you clean it up

One keeps you stuck. The other transforms everything.

What It Looks Like to Be a User vs. a Partner

Signs You’ve Been Using God (Not Partnering With Him)

You might be in a one-sided relationship with God if:

• 90% of your prayers are requests
• You only talk to Him when something goes wrong
• You make decisions first, then ask Him to bless them
• You’d rather text five friends before you talk to Him
• You feel guilty when you pray because you know you haven’t talked to Him in weeks
• Your relationship feels transactional instead of transformational

Sound familiar?

You’re not alone. And you’re not bad. You just haven’t been taught the difference between salvation and invitation.

What Partnership Actually Looks Like

• Inviting Him into your decisions before you make them
• Asking “What do You want me to do?” as often as you ask “Will You help me?”
• Pausing to listen instead of just rattling off your prayer list
• Letting Him into the mundane moments, not just the crisis moments
• Operating like He’s right there with you — because He is

The shift is subtle, but it changes everything.

The Invitation That Changes Everything

What Happens When You Say Yes to Partnership

1. Peace becomes your default, not panicYou’ll still face hard things. But instead of spiraling for days or weeks, you’ll find yourself moving from stress to peace in minutes.

   Your mind will start saying: Wait. God’s got this. It’s going to work out.

   And you won’t have to force yourself to believe it. It’ll become your automatic response.

2. You start making better decisionsWhen you invite God into your daily life — your business, your relationships, your finances — you start operating differently.

   You ask: If He was standing right here, would I do this?

   That one question will save you from so much unnecessary pain.

3. Your prayers become conversations, not complaint sessionsInstead of showing up with a list of demands, you start showing up to listen.

   You ask: What are You saying to me right now? What do You need from me? How do You want me to show up today?

   And suddenly, prayer doesn’t feel like a chore. It feels like connection.

4. You experience breakthrough in areas you’ve been stuck for yearsWhen you stop trying to do life on your own and start letting God lead, things that seemed impossible start shifting.

   Not because you’re trying harder. Because you finally invited the One who can actually change things.

How to Stop Using God and Start Walking With Him

Step 1 – Recognize the Pattern

You can’t change what you don’t see.

So take an honest look at your prayer life over the last month.

• How many prayers were requests versus conversations?
• How many times did you ask what He wanted versus what you wanted?
• How many decisions did you make without consulting Him first?

Why This Step Matters

Awareness is the first step to transformation. Once you see the pattern, you can change it.

And here’s the good news: God isn’t mad at you for this. He’s just been waiting for you to realize it.

Quick Action You Can Take

Right now, grab your phone or a notebook. Write down your last 5–10 prayers. How many started with “Can you…” or “Will you…” versus “Show me…” or “What do You want from me?”

Just notice. No judgment. Just awareness.

Step 2 – Change Your Prayers from Requests to Conversations

Start shifting how you talk to God.

Instead of: “Lord, fix this situation”
Try: “Lord, what are You trying to show me in this situation? What do You want me to learn?”

Instead of: “God, send me a breakthrough”
Try: “God, what do I need to become to walk in the breakthrough You have for me?”

Instead of: “Help me get through this”
Try: “What do You want to do IN me through this?”

Common Mistake to Avoid

Don’t turn this into another religious checklist. This isn’t about “praying correctly.”

It’s about genuinely shifting from taking to partnering.

Example in Action

Try this tonight: Before you go to bed, don’t list everything you need. Instead, ask: “God, what do YOU want from me right now?”

Then sit in silence for 5 minutes and just listen.

You might not hear an audible voice. But you’ll start noticing impressions, thoughts, nudges. That’s Him responding.

Step 3 – Invite Him Into Your Everyday Life (Not Just Your Crisis)

Most of us only call on God when things fall apart.

But what if you started inviting Him into your normal day?

• When you’re getting dressed: “God, how do You want me to show up today?”
• When you’re at work: “Am I operating with integrity right now?”
• When you’re on social media: “If You were sitting next to me, would this be okay?”
• When you’re making a decision: “What would You do?”

Why This Step Matters

Partnership isn’t just for the hard moments. It’s for every moment.

When you start inviting God into the mundane, He starts showing up in the extraordinary.

Quick Action You Can Take

Tomorrow morning, before you pick up your phone, say out loud: “God, I’m inviting You into my day. Show me how You want me to move.”

Then pause. Even if it’s just 30 seconds. Let Him lead.

Step 4 – Change Your Response Pattern

When something goes wrong, who do you call first?

Your mom? Your best friend? Your spouse?

Here’s the challenge: Make God your first call.

Not because the other people are bad. But because if you’re trying to build a partnership with God, He needs to be the first one you turn to.

Why This Step Matters

Your first response reveals who you really trust.

If your instinct is to call your friends before you call on God, you’re still trying to handle life without Him.

Quick Action You Can Take

Create a contact in your phone called “God.”

Next time something stresses you out, text that number first. Tell Him what’s on your heart.

He won’t text back. But watch how it shifts your panic to peace just by making Him your first response instead of your last resort.

Fast Wins – What You Can Do in the Next 7 Days

3 Actions You Can Take Now

1. Save “God” as a contact in your phone. Next time you’re stressed, text Him before you call anyone else. Watch what happens to your peace level.
2. Before bed each night this week, ask: “God, what do YOU want from me?” Sit in silence for 5 minutes. Don’t force an answer. Just listen.
3. Pick one area where you’ve been “doing it alone” — your business, your relationships, your finances — and say out loud: “God, I’m inviting You into this. Show me how You want me to handle it.”

What Happens When You Accept the Invitation

Real Results You Can Expect

• You’ll go from spiraling for days to finding peace in minutes
• You’ll start making decisions you’re proud of instead of ones you regret
• You’ll walk through hard seasons with a supernatural level of calm
• You’ll finally understand what “peace that surpasses understanding” actually feels like
• You’ll stop wondering why your prayers feel like they hit the ceiling

And here’s the wildest part: You’ll be going through hard things and still have joy.

Not fake positivity. Real, unexplainable peace that doesn’t make sense given your circumstances.

That’s what partnership does. It doesn’t remove the storms. It gives you Someone to walk through them with you.

The Cost of Staying a User

If you don’t shift from using God to partnering with Him, here’s what you’ll miss:

• Years of experiencing the same cycles
• A lifetime of shallow prayers that never transform you
• The peace and joy that come from true partnership
• The life God actually has for you beyond just “blessed”

You’ll look back and realize you spent your whole life asking for blessings instead of walking in purpose.

What I Want You to Remember

This isn’t about doing more. It’s about relating differently.

You don’t need to pray longer or read your Bible more (though those things are good).

You need to shift from:

• Asking → Listening
• Using → Partnering
• Crisis calls → Daily connection

You’re not broken. You’ve just been in a one-sided relationship.

And today, God’s extending the invitation again: Will you do life WITH Me?

The moment you say yes, things start shifting. He’ll start showing you the plans He has for you. He’ll start leading you in ways you never expected.

It might be uncomfortable. It might challenge you. But it will be the best decision you ever make.

Ready to deepen your partnership with God? The PrayHER Journal is designed to help you shift from one-sided prayers to real conversations. It’s where you process what He’s saying, track how He’s moving, and learn to partner with Him daily. Grab your copy here!

P.S. Want to hear the full story behind this shift — including the two IRS audits that changed everything? Listen to the full UnlockHER podcast episode where I share exactly how saying yes to the invitation transformed my relationship with God and my entire life.